Rebecca Goodwin's last word on comic's offensive gag

Rape survivor Rebecca Goodwin says she 'acknowledges but doesn’t accept’ Vittorio Angelone’s apology for joking about her ordeal.

The pregnant OnlyFans creator says she does not have the energy to be drawn further into the debate as she is suffering hyperemesis cravidarum.

Angelone yesterday issued an apology after an offensive joke he made on a  Have A Word podcast roast a year ago became public. 

In what she says will be her last social media post on the topic, Goodwin said: ‘I appreciate the accountability and I appreciate the lack of excuse.

But she said the apology had been ‘acknowledged but not quite accepted due to the timelines of everything happening.

‘Not only that but it's not just up to me to accept an apology, it's the one in three women that have a similar story to mine.

‘Should this be one of the times where males face the consequences for joking at women's expenses. I don't know. I'm too tired….’

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In his apology,  Angelone wrote: ‘I made a joke that I shouldn’t have made and I’d like to say sorry.

‘The joke referenced sexual violence. At the very least I should have run the joke past the person mentioned and then still not told it because it isn’t funny.

‘I let my need for validation supersede my own standards and morals. It’s completely pathetic and I’m ashamed to realise that about myself.

‘I pride myself on being able to talk about difficult topics and make them funny. I stand behind plenty of jokes that people have criticised. This is not one of those jokes. I’ve reached out and apologised directly to the person mentioned in the joke.

‘I’m also sorry to all the people who are rightly upset by the joke. I know that’s not going to make it okay but I’m still sorry. I am not apologising in the hope that this all blows over. I’m apologising because that’s what you should do when you realise you’ve done something wrong.

‘I’m grateful to you for calling me out and making me realise where I should’ve done better. Sometimes you need a lot of people telling you that you’ve fucked up to realise you’ve fucked up. I will do better in future.’

Angelone's joke was included in a video available to the podcast’s 45,000 Patreon subscribers  as the Irish comic roasted fellow Have A Word regular Freddy Quinne.

Angelone turned to his fellow comedian and said: ‘Freddy, if you’re here, who’s raping Rebecca Goodwin?’

‘That’s a joke. Of course it’s her dad.’

In her initial TikTik post, a clearly emotional Goodwin – who has waived her right to anonymity to tell her followers about her assault as the case goes through the courts – spoke about her upset at the gag.

In it, she said: ‘As you can probably see, I am a little bit upset. That’s because my attention has been drawn to a joke that has been made on the Have A Word pod roast… As most of you know, I am currently going through a rape trial at the minute. It is active, it is in court 

‘I understand comedy and things can be laughed at, but this is one of the hardest things I've ever been through in my life and I'm not exaggerating and it just hurt  to know that so many people have said, "Yeah you know what that's a great joke’

‘It's not even funny and he's not funny. I wasn't asked, people sat there laughing at this joke were people I saw as genuine friends and none of them have reached out to ask if I'm okay.’

Goodwin has previously appeared on the Have A Word podcast – though she admits her appearance did not go well – and said she felt betrayed by the incident. Although the footage has only just come to light, the roast was recorded about a year ago, three months after Goodwin reported the rape. She said some people in the room were aware of that.

‘I wasn't there, I was never asked if it was okay and the people [on stage] that sat there laughing at the joke are people I saw as genuine friends… and not one of them have even reached out to ask if I'm okay and they've not even told me about this joke, it was you guys [her followers].’

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In a later post, she explained her tearful appearance by saying: ‘I'm pregnant I'm emotional – hormones are all over the place’ and adding: ‘I make a lot of self-deprecating jokes about myself, that's my coping mechanism when it comes to trauma response.

‘I enjoy a bit of dark humour, but what I would never do, and what I thought most people on social media knew that they shouldn't do, would be to take an active rape trial victim, make a joke about it, publicise from it and monetise from it. I thought you were cleverer than that.’

She again criticised the comics who laughed at the joke and ‘the people behind the scenes that also clipped it and thought this is great, this is just fantastic content. I feel like I've lost a lot of friends today.’

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Since her clips went viral, Goodwin said she had received apologies from Quinne, Have A Word co-host and co-owner Adam Rowe and Daniel Sloss, who was also on stage that night. 

And she said she did not accept their words, explaining: ‘You're only apologising now because I've said something about it on social media. So your apology has been acknowledged, but unfortunately not accepted’.

In a subsequent post, before Angelone's apology, Goodwin said the comedian had removed a captioned image of the gag from his Instagram feed but ‘hasn't reached out to me – and I wouldn't accept the apology even if he did. 

‘He’s built himself as a leftist comedian and that was a room full of people that I would have considered safe to run to. In fact, I did. I cried to some of those people.  They knew what I went through, what I was going through And I was wrong to deem them as safe people.'

She added: ’Violent crimes against women are so high at the minute, it's so high and obviously making jokes about rape culture unfortunately helps enforce rape culture. It normalises it, it desensitises people to it.’

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Meanwhile Rachel Morrogh, chief executive of Dublin Rape Crisis Centre, told Irish media outlet Joe: ‘For survivors, hearing rape treated as a punchline can be deeply hurtful, and it reinforces the attitudes that discourage people from coming forward. 

‘Reporting sexual violence and going through the courts takes enormous courage, and survivors deserve to know that the process will be treated with seriousness and respect.

‘Anyone with a public platform, including performers, promoters and venues, has a responsibility to consider who is listening and the harm this kind of material can do. To treat sexual violence as a joke betrays a deep lack of understanding of what survivors have lived through’

Last year Goodwin made headlines for abandoning an interview on the Reality Check podcast, calling hosts  Shuan Maroof and CJ McKenna ‘horrible, toxic men’ after they persistently grilled her on whether there was ‘dignity’ in her OnlyFans work and about what she was contributing to society. Her response: £238,000 in tax.

Chortle has contacted Have A Word regarding the joke and the decision to broadcast it beyond the gig itself.

• Rape Crisis England and Wales runs a 24/7 rape and sexual support line on 0808 500 2222. In Ireland, Dublin Rape Crisis Centre runs a 24-hour national helpline on 1800 77 8888. Rape Crisis Scotland is available from 5pm to midnight on 08088 01 03 02 or text 07537 410 027.

Published: 21 Oct 2026